April 22, 2008 at 8:42 am 2 comments

Q: How does one truly surrender? How does one remain free of fear?

Sri Sri: Surrender means an unshaking confidence. Surrender simply means unconditional love. When there is love, there is no fear, know it is one energy that functions in three forms, either love, fear or hatred. When there is hatred there is no fear.When there is fear, there is no love or hate. And with all these three, the sensations in the body is at a particular place, the heart, whether you are in fear, in deep love or in hatred.

And they are interchangeable. One changes into the other. You love somebody and that love slowly changes into hatred or you love something very dearly and the fear rises, thinking, Oh, I may lose it. Whatever you love most you hold onto. So, the same love has changed itself to fear.

So, true surrender happens. You cannot do anything about it. Like a mother is surrendered to the child. Mother does not say, Oh, I am sacrificing going to a party because my child is ill. She never feels she is sacrificing for the sake of the child. The topmost priority for her is the child. So, if you love something, very deep, that is surrender, true surrender. Surrender is not a burden, not a fear, not something which comes out of force. It is a spontaneous happening.

Only the strong can surrender, the weak can never surrender. We seem to understand it the other way. We feel that if someone is weak they will surrender. I am powerful. How can I surrender? No. To surrender it takes great courage and power,strength and confidence. Only then can you surrender. There is a difference between submission and surrender. You may submit to someone for a while and you are looking for an opportunity to raise your head back.

Surrender is always unconditional. It’s not that “I will surrender, so I can have peace of mind or bliss or whatever”. That is no surrender. If you love someone, because of what they have then you don’t love them, you love the quality. Love is a very deep, intimate phenomenon in your consciousness. It just flowers.It cannot but flower. There is no way you can meddle with it. You go near love, you dissolve, you simply don’t exist. That is the definition of love. Either you are there or there is love. You can never meet love or you can never love. Either you remain as love or you remain as somebody.

See, in conversation we say, “See, I love that because …………….” It is the most stupid thing. You love something and say because? I love you because you are very good, I love you because you are honest? You are not loving that person, you love those qualities. And there is nothing great in you loving those qualities. And I tell you, you seem to love those qualities which you don’t have. That’s how people make ideals and they remain far away from ideals.

If at all you meet God, as a person something in future, what will you ask? And if at all, you have to ask you can ask only one thing – Let love be there. Let love flower from the heart is the only desire that is worth asking for because you don’t force or do anything to bring about that love in your heart. That’s a happening, a phenomenon. That phenomenon in all its totality is called surrender. In surrender there is no pinch, no pain and if one has done this once, that is enough. That experience, once, is enough. So, to be free of fear, again have confidence. Look how futile it is to have fear, any fear.Meditation would help you a lot. Know that it is an emotion, another form of love.Accept it and go through it. If you resist it, then that becomes anger. Be with it.Buddha said that any Vedana –any mood of the mind can be seen as a sensation.So, a mental agitation, feeling, emotion is associated with some physical sensation in the body and some specific point. All those feelings in the mind has been transformed as feelings in the body at the physical level, they dissolve through meditation. Meditation transforms all the different emotions.

When we remain as a small pond, a stone will create a big ripple. If somebody says something, that can blow your peace off. So the peace is thrown off by people around you. But when you become an ocean, even a big mountain falling into it, does not affect it. Being an ocean, we behave like a pond – that is the wonder. The greatest wonder is man who is an ocean of peace and joy, behaves as though he is a little pond when he is disturbed by any little small thing.The small somebody does something that irritates you. You go crazy over little insignificant things and that worries you over and over again, day and night for severalyears. Once you are surrendered, there comes a depth in you and nothing what so ever can throw you off.


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Inertia and Depression – July 2002 Guru Purnima, Advance Course, Montreal Ashram Ashthavakra Gita (pdf)

2 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Abby Nnamik  |  January 14, 2010 at 12:51 pm

    Nice article….I’m reading on my phone….but can’t wait to get on my computer to read more….. All u need is LOVE. Thank you for that message! 🙂

    • 2. guruvaani  |  January 21, 2010 at 10:24 am

      Thanks Abby…. Enjoy reading


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